I lived the majority of my life in fear about marriage. Not in common rational fears like “Will we be able to get along for the rest of our lives” but instead stood petrified before the altar with such questions as “What happens if we get married and the next day I find out that she has cancer and is going to die.”
Recently in the news there was an article that posed a question that I have been thinking over and over:
“All things being equal, would you divorce your spouse if he or she suddenly stopped (or started) believing in God?”
Nothing has changed other than the fact/belief that they can no longer take you to the celestial kingdom, be with you in Christ or stand with you in godless reason. (Read Complete Story)
This question has made me stop and think. What would I do? I plan to now speculate as to what I would do…though I would probably never truly know until it ACTUALLY happened to me. (I don’t really want to find out sweetheart
First of all let me say that I love my wife and am thankful that God led me to find her. I know that he literally played a part in helping us find one another and be together. She was there for me when I wasn’t a member of the Church and also when I was rebaptized and has stuck by me as I work toward full fellowship. She has never told me that I had to do it or she would leave me or anything along those lines. She has just been loving and supportive.
Which makes MY part of the equation that much more difficult. I think that as I sit and think of the many tremendous blessings I have received from being married to my wife. I think that if she came home and said I no longer believe in The Church of Jesus Christ of latter day saints and have no desire to be a member of the church, I think I would be devastated. I wouldn’t know what to do. I have never been one to walk away from something…but this would be the ULTIMATE test for me.
The gospel is so much of what I know and want for myself that to not share that similar expectation of that end of life goal with my partner seems insurmountable.
Does that make me a bad person? Am I being a hypocrite?
So I pose the same question to:
Would you divorce your spouse if he or she suddenly stopped believing in God?